Aaron and I often debate about whether or not wayward children come out as rebels or whether it is because of upbringing and things that happen in the home. Everyone knows stories of those "parents of the year" who have one child who is just wild. Or the kids who come from "that home" where it's so obvious that love and attention are hard to come by. My best guess is that both individual personality and parental guidance play strong roles but which one wins out?
I'm no psychology major but I tend to side with the environment in the home. But I'm also the kind of person who believes there is a reason for everything. Maybe I'm looking for something to "blame" or to "reason" why someone's behavior or attitude is how it is. So many times you can look at a person and their parents and its striking how similar they are. But my husband is so extremly different from his family that I wonder, where is the logic there?
Well, I could rattle on and on about this but since I've left my own childhood home and have learned to govern myself and now my daughter I find myself already feeling the need to have rules and guidelines prepared for my future family. The world is only going to get trickier and more confusing so I strongly believe that the home is the home base for education and life-training. And for those of you who don't have kids, it's never too late to work on yourself more.
Some thing I've come across that help build up and unify the family unit are:
Or Family Rules boards:
What I like about these ideas are that you can make them personalized to each family. Plus it's cute and gets the whole family involved.
So, I put it out to you...what are some of the rules that helped your family growing up? What were some family traditions that kept you together? What guidelines were in place that helped you stay out of the mud? Be them little or big.. maybe this topic is too broad, but, I'll be posting more about this in the future because it's right up my alley at this stage in life and I always enjoy hearing words of wisdom from you who have already been in the trenches or have found something that works for you.
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